Early this morning l went out for my day workout, as l do everyday. l came across a group of elementary girls on their way to school. just as l passed l hear one of the girls reply to the other "l know she is such a bitch, the fucking slut was talking behind my back thinking l wouldn't find out"(exact word). now I'm not that old to know that society has change but has it really changed that bad? little girls are already bad mouthing each other from elementary age.
That little girl heard those words from someone, so she is thinking its OK to talk that way but little does she know she really is feeding her brain unhealthy negative thoughts. We need to teach our sisters, daughters, nieces, cousins, grandchildren even parents and grandmas; that we can not allow ourselves to use such language against each other. It is worse enough men already do it, how will they learn that we will not tolerate such demeaning words to be seen as our value when we don't even see the value in the words we say to each other. Many parents are quick to blame technology, but really most of the times its them. we are allowing our children to be influenced by stereotypes, society, and the media, just because you see girls fighting on 'Jersey Shore' or heard the new song from 'Rihanna' and it had cursing don't mean you have to carry yourself in the same manner.
Lets teach our children that you have a problem with your fellow female friends go to them and the two of you have a talk to understand the problem and move on. Lets teach our children what respect is, if you have the audacity to open your mouth and nothing but foul language comes out then you, yourself do not respect yourself as a women because those words are also demeaning you. Mothers, lets not just tell our children; 'monkey see, monkey do' we have to practise what we preach as well. l have seen some parents who tell their child not to curse and then they turn around and start cursing off the woman next to them.
WHY oh WHY do we degrade each other in order to feel good about ourselves? l recently read this ridiculous explanation as to why women don't like each other. Ready...ITS EVE'S FAULT. Eve was the first women, and by making the first sin she showed women's true evil colours:
"...because of her, the prevalent belief...has been that all women are by nature disobedient, guileless, weak-willed, prone to temptation and evil, disloyal, untrustworthy, deceitful, seductive, and motivated in their thoughts and behaviour purely by self-interest...Whoever she might be and whatever her accomplishments, no woman can escape being identified with Eve, or being identified as her."Christopher L. C. E. WitcombeSince the beginning of time women have gone through this image that men now put on us because of Eve's sin. l believe women have learned a lot from Eve many of us carry the traits she had but that does not, mean we are forever going to be that way. We need to show confidence in ourselves, trust ourselves and each other. Men will bad mouth us, belittle us but that does not mean we need to accept that and also start doing so to each other. We are sisters and we need to speak nothing but empowerment into each others lives.
So to all of us daughters of EVE I say "I'm here to inspire you, to influence you, to motivate you and I hope you do the same for me." If we want to excel in a man's world we need to bound together and be a force to be reckoned with.